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A friend in need is a friend in deed - I am sure most of us saw this on the school boards and many other places. But what do we really know about friendship? I am being honest in saying that I have, in recent years, understood the true meaning of a good friendship. I am not going to hide the fact that I  have faultered, in many ways, in maintaining some beautiful relations by being ignorant about the fundamentals of the same. But time and again I have been reminded about the purity and the unconditonality of loving as a friend and not just being loved. Almost like divine grace. There have been and are people who have led by example and continue to lead with love and strengthen my ideology about being a good friend
I would like to talk about a movie, that does exactly what I said! The Star, is a beautiful animated Christmas movie, with a different perspective, that of Boaz - a donkey, who is irresistibly compelled to follow the North Star and how he sets out on a mission with a friend but ends up being a witness to the most magical event on the planet. I would recommend you watch the movie

Bo has a vision and shares  that vision with a friend , sets out fearlessly - You find people with a similar vision and fearlessly follow it in partnership. This teaches you to BELIEVE in your vision and the partnership ie your friend who shares it with you

Bo befriends a sheep - Ruth who is has left her flock with a vision - Even if your friends don’t believe  in your vision, you courageously set out on your own for you will make friends on your way, you will find your tribe

Bo treats Mary special even with her simplicity as against the riches of the royal caravan , merely in the basis in how much he is loved and how much he loves her. Goes back to help her even when his dream was in front of her eyes, speak about a friend in need and in deed - NO greater Love than that of friendship . What makes your friends special is not their royalties but their qualities and their love for you and yours for them
Being available for a friend in need and in deed is the true essence of a friend

Bo says mean things to the sheep and comes back and apologises to which the sheep accepts him gracefully and non judgementally with the same excitement - Even when you fight , have the courage to apologise and as a friend have the grace to forgive without judgement

The sheep trains Bo to wedge on the hills to maintain balance , talk about sharing knowledge - Share your knowledge 


They always stayed together despite of their differences on the basis of their vision and were compassionate and helpful through the struggles - Being together through the glory and the struggles, being compassionate and celebrate the difference and the similarities. 



So what is your take on friendship? Comment on this article to tell me your perspective or views! Hope you enjoyed this post.

Thank you for reading!

XO
Kimaya

'Mood swings' - an integral part of a woman's life! While some may be situational, most of them hit just before our periods. Surely, not the best time for you but not even for her. In layman's terms, it is called a 'Premenstrual Syndrome' ! Happens every month, mostly untraceable unless you know your pattern. It could start as early as two weeks before your period or maybe even two days prior. Some symptoms including but not limited to body pain, bloating, nausea, severe acidity, diarrhea and so on. While the others are something you cannot control, you can definitely help her tame her mood swings.
These mood swings can make us cause unintentional fights and arguments, and be sure we feel guilty af, after! The damage is usually done though. It can usually turn into a bad phase of any relation. Especially if not reciprocated well! Hahahahaha Try complaining about it to the women and be ready to face the thunder. You(men) are anyway not equipped to understand our hormonal trauma, the least you can do though, is not be an inconsiderate partner, who does not understand the pain of being put into a state you did not even ask for, something so biological.
So here it is, the reason I am writing this post! Inspite of most of the information being readily available, people hardly act upon it. We women usually always pamper ourselves because we are not waiting on people to do that for us! But sometimes, we are exhausted too, and we really hope to be pampered and understood by our loved ones. I am pmsing as I write this post, and I recently had an unnecessary argument which may have damaged a relation. Me giving an explanation would not work because most people think women use PMS as an excuse to get out of a situation. I feel we should be understood for our good intentions rather than some words on some hyper emotional days. Nevertheless,
with the hope that you( who is reading this now) will probably be able to do it right for the women you love; your mother, sister, girlfriend or any other;  I am writing a few steps to help you become the person we look for on 'those' days ! No pressure though, I am trying to make this simple for you.

There is a unique solution for every kind of mood.

1. For - The Cry Baby
This one will usually cry at anything. Yes! Literally anything! Movies, dogs, flowers, books, photos, babies, anything. It is not her fault though, be sure she cannot help it right now.
First step, ACKNOWLEDGE! This is a crucial step which is conveniently omitted from any approach ! Give humane and polite reactions to her tears. Accompany that with a warm hug. Result? She may cry some more but she will love you more too :) If you already know her and her patterns, tone-down your anger, ego, and other such emotions and be kind.

2. For - The Bad Cramps
This type will mostly always bunk work to stay home in bed, with a hot-water bag and maybe painkillers. She is too bugged to move around.
This is a perfect time to watch your favorite movies or series with her. Take sometime off, sit with her. Play her favorite movie and cook/call for something she likes to indulge in. Don't forget to cuddle. We love that!

3. For - The Love Sick
Love amongst other things is also something we crave for during a PMS. We may not be the clingy type but still want extra love and affection.
Do it, man! This is the easiest of them all! Give her the love, hugs, compliments, et all. If you are away or live in different cities, send her texts or small presents to make her feel special and warm. My brother customizes a a special box every month, full of presents which will help his girlfriend get through her period, feel special and happier. Isn't that sweet?! I am so proud of him!

4. For - The Angry Kid
Caution! This one's the most tricky and difficult to deal with! Like the Cry- Baby, anything can trigger her emotions but the difference is that instead of showering tears she will throw some lightening! Everything gets to her! She is like a stubborn kid but with more emotions!
Please make sure, you do as she says. Do not piss her off. Think twice before you say something. Postpone the stressful discussions. Most importantly, do not take anything she says, to your heart. She is probably just saying it because she feels irritated. Remember all her symptoms, remember it is biological and remember to ACKNOWLEDGE!

5. For - The Foodie Babe
This type is the easiest to please, in my opinion!
She tells you what she craves for, all you have to do ( apart from being nice) is order it or cook it for her! Simple! Feed her like a baby! Her favourite chocolates, cakes, pizzas, sour fruits, everything.

This is just a little something I wanted to share with you. It may seem like something so miniscule but trust me the magnitude of this is unimaginable. I hope this will help you make one of your life experiences a good one.
In good times or worse, be there for your special people. You always have an opportunity and it will always matter.

XOXO
Kimaya