These mood swings can make us cause unintentional fights and arguments, and be sure we feel guilty af, after! The damage is usually done though. It can usually turn into a bad phase of any relation. Especially if not reciprocated well! Hahahahaha Try complaining about it to the women and be ready to face the thunder. You(men) are anyway not equipped to understand our hormonal trauma, the least you can do though, is not be an inconsiderate partner, who does not understand the pain of being put into a state you did not even ask for, something so biological.
So here it is, the reason I am writing this post! Inspite of most of the information being readily available, people hardly act upon it. We women usually always pamper ourselves because we are not waiting on people to do that for us! But sometimes, we are exhausted too, and we really hope to be pampered and understood by our loved ones. I am pmsing as I write this post, and I recently had an unnecessary argument which may have damaged a relation. Me giving an explanation would not work because most people think women use PMS as an excuse to get out of a situation. I feel we should be understood for our good intentions rather than some words on some hyper emotional days. Nevertheless,
with the hope that you( who is reading this now) will probably be able to do it right for the women you love; your mother, sister, girlfriend or any other; I am writing a few steps to help you become the person we look for on 'those' days ! No pressure though, I am trying to make this simple for you.
There is a unique solution for every kind of mood.
1. For - The Cry Baby
This one will usually cry at anything. Yes! Literally anything! Movies, dogs, flowers, books, photos, babies, anything. It is not her fault though, be sure she cannot help it right now.
First step, ACKNOWLEDGE! This is a crucial step which is conveniently omitted from any approach ! Give humane and polite reactions to her tears. Accompany that with a warm hug. Result? She may cry some more but she will love you more too :) If you already know her and her patterns, tone-down your anger, ego, and other such emotions and be kind.
2. For - The Bad Cramps
This type will mostly always bunk work to stay home in bed, with a hot-water bag and maybe painkillers. She is too bugged to move around.
This is a perfect time to watch your favorite movies or series with her. Take sometime off, sit with her. Play her favorite movie and cook/call for something she likes to indulge in. Don't forget to cuddle. We love that!
3. For - The Love Sick
Love amongst other things is also something we crave for during a PMS. We may not be the clingy type but still want extra love and affection.
Do it, man! This is the easiest of them all! Give her the love, hugs, compliments, et all. If you are away or live in different cities, send her texts or small presents to make her feel special and warm. My brother customizes a a special box every month, full of presents which will help his girlfriend get through her period, feel special and happier. Isn't that sweet?! I am so proud of him!
4. For - The Angry Kid
Caution! This one's the most tricky and difficult to deal with! Like the Cry- Baby, anything can trigger her emotions but the difference is that instead of showering tears she will throw some lightening! Everything gets to her! She is like a stubborn kid but with more emotions!
Please make sure, you do as she says. Do not piss her off. Think twice before you say something. Postpone the stressful discussions. Most importantly, do not take anything she says, to your heart. She is probably just saying it because she feels irritated. Remember all her symptoms, remember it is biological and remember to ACKNOWLEDGE!
5. For - The Foodie Babe
This type is the easiest to please, in my opinion!
She tells you what she craves for, all you have to do ( apart from being nice) is order it or cook it for her! Simple! Feed her like a baby! Her favourite chocolates, cakes, pizzas, sour fruits, everything.
This is just a little something I wanted to share with you. It may seem like something so miniscule but trust me the magnitude of this is unimaginable. I hope this will help you make one of your life experiences a good one.
In good times or worse, be there for your special people. You always have an opportunity and it will always matter.
XOXO
Kimaya
